How to pick unstoppable New Years resolutions!
Yeah, it’s something like 80-90% of New Years resolutions fail, why? It’s because people pick stupid stuff like, learn a language or never eat chocolate again, learn how to dance, quit smoking. These are all the end goal, do you even start with these!
Instead write better more true goals, notice I wrote true not realistic!
A example of a true goal, “take part in a salsa competition by the end of the year, I’ll do this by practising just 2 hours a week, classes are every Wednesday and Thursday, I have found a class that is near my work so I can go straight there to practise, the competition tends to be mid-November which gives me roughly 100 practise sessions.”
“My goal is to stop smoking, I’m currently smoking 20 a day, I don’t want to smoke at all by the next new year, I will achieve this by quitting 1 cigarette a week for 16 weeks, I will then change and cut a cigarette out every 10 days, leaving 1 cigarette after 30 days, I’ll then stop cigarettes completely and any withdrawals I get I will use gums or tablets to get a nicotine hit, after 30 days of not smoking I’ll quit all products, the money I’ll save from stopping to smoke will be £30 a month, that will be spent In feb next year on getting my teeth whitened and a new gym membership.”
These are a true goals, they are specific they detail the HABITS you have to form to stop/start something, the end goal is almost irrelevant if you aren’t building the habits to get that goal.
So make sure when you pick the habits, don’t just say them, build some intent around them, Hand write them out and put them on a white board or on your fridge or somewhere you can see them everyday, make sure you ask someone to keep you a reward, these kind of goals don’t give you a quick return, you don’t see an immediate impact in your life so set milestones and reward yourself, not with food! It doesn’t have to be a big reward, it can be as simple as I’ll reward my self when I get down to 15 cigarettes with a cinema trip, a new dress from ASOS, and then set bigger goals, like ‘when I completely stop I’ll get my teeth whitened’ this is an expensive reward but you deserve it! Well done.
Another thing that helps is reframe who you are, don’t say things like I’m a smoke, say to people ‘I don’t smoke anymore’ even if you haven’t, you aren’t a smoker, just make sure you quit!
So the points are:
Set true goals, make them huge, make them extravagant but make sure you HAND WRITE them and HOW you will achieve them, what it means when you DO get you goals and what it means if you DON’T get your goals, the HABITS you will build, the REWARDS you will give yourself and make you you find someone who will keep you ACCOUNTABLE.
Have an incredible 2020 and welcome to a decade!!
The Main Author is Dan Grimes, Guest authors will be posting too.